Some years ago, when it came to funeral music, you were often only able to select from a limited number of traditional songs and hymns. Now, pretty much anything goes.
Although this means that the service can be personalised more, it can make it harder to choose the songs, as the options are almost limitless.
Here are some things you should consider, to help you narrow it down and select the perfect songs to memoralise your loved one.
Think about the person
Try to recall their favourite songs, bands and singers, or what their favourite genre of music was. Did they like country or classical music, or pop or rock songs?
Remember that the music that you select for the funeral does not need to be traditional funeral music. Choose music that is significant to your loved one.
Set the tone
Decide on what tone you wish to set. When listening to different songs, listen carefully to the words and consider how they will make other people feel.
The music that you select will be different, depending on whether you would like a sombre, reflective service or a more upbeat service.
At most modern services, the music is now played through a speaker system, but some people still opt for the music to be played on instruments and/or vocalised by singers.
Speak to others
Ask your loved one’s friends and family for suggestions as to what music they think would be best. They may suggest songs that you had not thought of.
Look at their collection
If you can, look through your loved one’s collection of music to gather some ideas. This will give you an insight into their favourite songs, artists and genres.
You could look at their CDs or vinyl records, or what music they have saved on their streaming account, phone or music player.
Consider popular songs
If you are struggling to pick something, listen to some of the most commonly selected music for funerals to see if any of those resonate with you.
These are some of the most popular funeral songs:
- My Way – Frank Sinatra
- Angels – Robbie Williams
- The Best – Tina Turner
- Wind Beneath My Wings – Bette Midler
- Always Look on the Bright Side of Life – Eric Idle (Monty Python’s Life of Brian)
- Time to Say Goodbye – Sarah Brightman and Andrea Bocelli
- You’ll Never Walk Alone – Gerry and the Pacemakers
- I’ll See You Again – Westlife
- Over the Rainbow – Eva Cassidy
- Nothing Compares to You – Sinead O’Connor
- Wish You Were Here – Pink Floyd
- Bring Me Sunshine – Morecambe and Wise
- Don’t Worry, Be Happy – Bobby McFerrin
- What a Wonderful World – Louis Armstrong
- You Are the Sunshine of My Life – Stevie Wonder
Speak to the funeral director
You could also ask the funeral director for some suggestions. They are experts in this field and will have heard many funeral songs, both conventional and unconventional.
Whether you have a selection in mind but need help narrowing it down, simply have no clue, or are feeling overwhelmed, we can help.
Family-owned and run since 1925, Maddock Funeral Directors has been trusted by generations of Warrington families. For expert advice, please get in touch with our team on 01925 652819.
It is important to bear in mind that there are no right or wrong choices when it comes to choosing funeral music.
Just try as best as you can to select something that honours the person you lost, is meaningful, sets the desired tone, and offers comfort and a chance to reflect for those that attend.